Family Life, October 2015

Determined to Be Great

by Tonya Woodridge-Jarvis

Picuture“Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it. Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable. So I do not run aimlessly; I do not box as one beating the air. But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.” 1 Corinthians 9:24-27

 I recently watched a documentary about a guy who had wanted to play baseball since childhood, but his sight had been diminishing, and by the time he was 17-years-old he was declared legally blind. However, his determination and resiliency would set him up to make history.

Shortly after becoming legally blind, he realized that he was still living, and that he could still play baseball. The National Beep Baseball Association (NBBA) was organized for visually impaired adults to play baseball. Beep baseball is played on a grass field with six fielders and one or two “spotters” from one team, and the pitcher, catcher, and batter from the other team. They blindfold the fielders and the catchers so that everyone can be on the same level. I would go on to learn that his (NBBA) team won the championship this year.

What is your determination today? Will you allow the setbacks in life keep you from being great?

Accomplishing greatness is not about being a celebrity or a media mogul.  Donna Douglas, aka Elly Mae Clampett from the popular TV series The Beverly Hillbillies, went on to live a low-key life in Pride, Louisiana. She was very popular in her day but decided not to take the often-traveled route to Hollywood. She said that she could have been more famous if she had taken her clothes off, but her spirituality came first.

 You hear of folks all the time wanting to be celebrities, but you never know the path they (celebrities) might have to walk to get there. Michael Jackson was one of the greatest singers of all time; he had everything, including a zoo, at his fingertips but couldn’t sleep at night. Greatness can come to anyone who desires it. However, it is the way you go about achieving greatness that will determine how great you will truly become.

Family Life, September 2015

A Marital Revival

by Tonya Woodridge-Jarvis

PicutureWe know in marriage that nobody can ruffle your feathers like your spouse.  It is designed that way because the two of you are learning to become one. Normally one personality is a bit more dominant than the other, and it shows. Can you imagine what Mary and Joseph’s marriage was like? Think about the overwhelming love and trust that Joseph clearly had for Mary. Why are marriages not like that in today’s society?

I can go on to name a few excuses, not reasons, but excuses, as to why they aren’t. Are you poisoning your marriage with your emotions? Often times we carry emotional baggage that has never been allowed to heal from past hurt and pain. Meaning, your spouse did something you didn’t agree with in the past, you all had a discussion to end it then, but when something else comes up you replay the last discussion.

That’s one type of poison. Do your co-workers see you more than your family? That’s another type of poison. Marriage is a never-ending lesson. Your marital quest is a journey to the work that God wants to do in you and He has given you an all-star team to do it with.

Like revival (spiritual awakening) in church is much needed, revival in marriage is needed as well. Marital revival means reestablishing the marriage, or awakening it. In Christian marriages we often don’t realize that we are under attack even more than non-Christian marriages. In some recent studies the divorce rate of Christian marriages almost matched the divorce rate of non-Christian marriages.

Why is that? Is God at the center of your marriage like He once was? Sometimes God will take your marriage through the ringer because He wants to draw you closer together. Will you be a survivor through the revival?

Marital Revival Techniques:

  • Acknowledgment of the problem (come clean, be transparent)
  • Seek Counsel to resolve the issues
  • Pray that the change has already taken place
  • Be patient
  • Help another couple the way that you’ve been helped